“All control is damage control.”
This “drawing on the back of a business card” by Hugh MacLeod, included in his book, Evil Plans: Having Fun on the Road to World Domination (Penguin, 2011), is one of my all-time favorites.
It’s one of those few ideas that seems to fit almost every situation.
Damage control isn’t a bad thing. It’s a necessary thing.
But sometimes, especially when fear is running high, control becomes damaging. Sometimes, out of fear, I attempt to control things that defy control and always will. Then, when those attempts fail, I’m left with the frustration, even anger, and I find that I’ve only damaged myself.
Dogs will have accidents and pee indoors. For example.
If nothing else, examining what you want to control gives you a window into what you may be afraid of. And the awareness of your fears may be a step on the path to living less anxiously.
A roller-coaster is a controlled descent. Thrills are one thing. But white-knuckling it through life isn’t any fun.